UPDATE: Due to popular demand and response to this article, I will refrain from an update till further notice. Thank you for reading.
“For if I were skilled in flattery, my Maker would soon take me away.” Job 32:21-22
The Lord woke me up about three o’clock (3 am) this morning and told me to write this blog. Not to say that He did not inspire the others (actually the uninspired ones never get published, simply because they never get written :)). But something about this blog had the ring of urgency to it. Shortly after He put this particular one in my mind, He gave or reminded me of about four other ones. So by 4:30am this morning, my mind was churning, on fire and spewing words. But then again what is new? I thought you should know that the next one the Lord has me to write is entitled ‘TEN THINGS (And Counting) YOU DO NOT (But Should Actually) KNOW ABOUT ME”. I am going to need a ‘huge dose of grace’ to carry that one through but obey the Lord I will. Pray for me for the wisdom to turn a complex and complicated equation into a palatable and simple experience.
Alright, back to the blog at hand. But first and foremost, as always let us see what the Word of the Most high God has to say about this topic or rather the instrument used to perpetuate this situation:
“For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naïve people”. Romans 16:17-19
I asked a friend of almost twenty years (we met as infants :)) to describe me with three words. Meticulous was one of the words she used and it included an intense attention to details. I won’t tell you what the other two words were, at least until the next blog. But I must say meticulous is right on the money. You can add to that squeamish and allergic to dirt! That was my only concern in ‘Medical School’. The text and written part was a breeze, bless God for the DNA and genes he graciously gave. However, I would often be found hyper-ventilating when some practical situations became too gruesome and messy. I envisioned a scenario, where I would have to bark orders to a specifically hired hand to carry out what was in my very saturated head. Once in the second year, I had, had one too many chopped off sections of the ‘cranial lobe’ (brain tissues) in my freezer as I studied the nerves. I told my daddy clipping and squinting at the nerves were getting on my nerves! He said rather than avoid the medical field completely, I could switch to Psychology. For now I will vacate that story and how it ended. But I will tell you that Psychology is a dear familiar, good friend and acquaintance of mine.
Two days ago a psychologist friend of mine, who used to be in the School System, but now has her own practice told me she was going to see a movie that was out and playing. This movie had to do with a child that was a ‘Sociopath’ and all the damages he caused. It had been highly acclaimed and very closely done to what actually transpires in real life. She shared with me certain things she had seen happen when she dealt with some cases in the school system. The sociopath was able to destroy relationships, break marriages apart (even their parents), set parents and children at each others throats, had bosses stalking workers, workers harming bosses and every heart wrenching evil you could imagine. And when all was said and done, they walked away ‘scott-free’ and on to their next victim. I flinched in disgust as she regaled me with tale after tale of deeds that lacked enormously in the conscience department. The sociopath lacked one thing that could even restrain a person without the Spirit of God from committing heinous crimes, a conscience.
That means they knew right from wrong, they could decipher what was evil and what was not. They knew certain actions could bear great and irreversible consequences and might even harm them and other people, but they went ahead anyway with their desire. It was always all about them at all costs. Here is what is most bone chilling and appalling, they do it all with the help of supposedly sane and normal people. The sociopath almost hardly displays a violent nature, in fact they are described as sweet and understanding. Part of their ploy is when a male; ‘explain or do it for me one more time.’ When it is a female; it is most likely ‘damsel in distress’. So the sociopath needs constant compassion and affirmation and every other person is the big bad formidable and unkind enemy. I asked my older friend to glean from her thirty years of experience and study how the sociopath was able to pull this ruse with the support of people who should have known better or been prepared after most had probably been burned many times before. She had one word; manipulation the sociopath told people what they wanted to hear and unbeknownst to them ( or maybe known), employed them for detriment and pure evil.
“With flattery he will corrupt those who have violated the covenant, but the people who know their God will firmly resist him.” Daniel 11:31-33
I said to my friend as she scurried to the cinema to see the movie, ‘this type cometh out only by fasting and praying in the Mighty Name of JESUS CHRIST!” Therapy would only put the desire for destruction to sleep till the next temptation arose. Shall we pray…?
Here are the words of a famous (non-religious) Psychologist; who wrote a very popular highly acclaimed book on this topic : “1 in 25 ordinary American has no conscience and can do any thing at all without feeling guilty. ‘Who is the devil you know'”. “The ruthless versus the rest of us: the Doctor (author) claims that 4% of the population are sociopaths who have no capacity to love or to empathise… The doctor (author) details the havoc the sociopath wreaks on unsuspecting individuals, marrying for money, back-stabbing co-workers, or simply messing with people for the fun of it.”
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, …” Hosea 4:5-7
It is imperative that we also know that we are not so special or cooler than the rest when the sociopath latches onto us easily than onto the others. It just means that they (the sociopaths) have discovered that we are gullible and we are the most convenient for their present messy situation. Also if I find myself as the sole consoler and frequent denominator for the sociopath when others have wisely pulled their bearings, please stand with me in prayer. This is not normal and it is not right. You can ask GOD Himself. You know what they say; ‘you fool me once you are stupid. You fool me twice then I am really STUPID!’ Which category do you fall in. Are you easily susceptible to manipulation? Then you also need God to deliver you from that need to be affirmed by a lie. What is it going to take for us to wise up? Complete destruction of our existence and God honoring reputation? This is serious my people, may the peace and discernment of God go with us all.
Now chances are you have not heard what you like or had your flesh stroked. But you have heard something liberating and enriching. That is how you know I am not a sociopath, and I with the Spirit of God wish that every person would rise up to their full potential and live a fulfilling life that brings glory and honor to our deserving Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.
“You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask to cover up greed—God is our witness.” 1 Thessalonians 2:4-6