“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” Ephesians 5:2-4
Okay, here we go again. I had to go there, the one topic that is like a taboo in the house of God ‘ain’t it‘ (said with a British accent). Well I just want to share something that I do not think a lot of people know. I won’t be preaching, that is for the Pastors to do and for us to check out like the ‘Bereans‘ and receive by faith. I learnt as a little girl, that ‘however you make your bed so you will lie on it’, literally! So I straightened my bed so perfectly in boarding school, I could have been a poster child for OCD :). My intent was simple I did not want to have to lay down on nasty and crinkled covers. So I furiously smoothed and straightened. As I grew up, I learned to apply that simple formula to everything including my spiritual life. Yes our righteousness is of Christ, but at some point we need to start living out the work that was accomplished for us at Calvary and not trample it underfoot; like swine before pearls.
I met a wonderful lady not too long ago. We had not known each other for a long time but we clicked real good, intellectually, relationally and emotionally. She was not a believer, but respected my faith , lifestyle and even welcomed some of my admonition out of respect for the fact that I was walking the talk and because she believed herself to be religious. She was such a lovely human being, that we would literally agree on anything that was common sense and of common good. However, there was one area where we never agreed, therefore my input nor God’s word was hardly solicited. My sweet friend moved in with her then fiance. Howbeit, they were already planning a wedding. I told her how I felt, she said she knew, but every one was doing it and she was not the one who was saved, I WAS! Truthfully said.
“We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did—and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died.” 1 Corinthians 10:7-9
Nevertheless, shortly after that time, my friend got pregnant. Had incredible life threatening complications, all as she started a new job and planned her wedding. It was stressful just watching her and I prayed she did not lose her baby. Needless to say, the whole experience went by as an unwanted chore, a stressful commitment and a painful blur for her. This was simply because things were done backwards to please the flesh, excite the devil and dishonor God’s word. I worried that by her wedding day, she would have had enough of all the well wishers milling around and sent us all to oblivion in exhaustion and irritation. She would be wielding a machete if need be, because of a high stress level and a high risk pregnancy! I looked at the situation and concluded one more time; that GOD’S BOUNDARIES ARE REALLY FOR OUR OWN GOOD!!! The ‘machete episode’ would have been made worse by me in the same situation. So I was happy to sit at Jesus feet abiding by His ways. Imagine me inspiring the caption: “Bride wields a bloody sword at wedding reception…” Get the picture?
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;” 1 Thessalonians 4:2-4
Here is the spiritual connotation of intimacy outside of marriage and unequal yoking ( Saved and Unsaved Coupling and relationships): There is always a loss of something deep in the soul and an exchange and trading of all its plaguing issues. That means without the legal protection of a real marriage and crossing the lines and protection of salvation, you inherit the other persons demons, curses, illnesses, shortcomings, failures and personality disorders (not necessarily in that order or quantity but enough). There will definitely be a legal transaction that would make the partakers cringe if they ever saw it. It is never good. Yes, I have seen otherwise reasonable and adorable people turn foolish, sociopathic, proud and so dark you could get lost in the hopeless abyss that is their soul. The bible warns us about hurting ourselves with sexual immorality because unlike other sins, this destroys inwardly first. It eventually drains, alters and withers those that partake of it. “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:17-19
Having said all that, consider if each partner had multiple partners. That means the partners may as well have been with their partner’s partners. The swap continues and don’t even begin to imagine the medical consequences…
“Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts.“ Revelation 9:20-21